I received this note the other day from a reader:
Thank you...Seems there has been a trend recently in blogs I’ve read of talking about how hard parenting is and they aren’t precious a lot and it’s ok to want to escape…I know that is not God’s will for me...
I really appreciate her thoughts because this is something I also see as a weakness in the blogosphere. In an effort to avoid pretense, we share too much ugliness. In an effort to "be real" (honestly, sometimes I get so weary of that phrase) and try to identify with others, we neglect to speak or write truth.
I understand that it is a balance because it's correct to strive for humility and transparency. I too have failed at it many times, I'm sure. But according to the unspoken rules of the blogosphere, if you have nothing bad or "real" to say, it's not going to be received. At all costs, you must not appear to "have it all together."
No one has it all together.
But friends, if someone in the virtual world is making you feel better about your sin, you need to find another blog to read.
It is sin to perpetually stay in a place of motherhood where you are joyless.
It is not a sin to fail and ask the Lord's forgiveness and help to do better.
It is a sin to remain in a place of anxiety and frustration and cast blame on others for it (like your children for instance, or the fact that you have no mentor).
It is not a sin to take negative thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ.
It is not right for a blogger to refer to her website as a Titus 2 encouragement, if she is not encouraging you to love your children, but merely complain about them.
Motherhood is a beautiful gift of God. Messy at times. Noisy often. But sometimes we act as though we are martyrs, giving up something grand for a life of abysmal slavery.
Be discerning. A mark of Christian maturity is discernment. But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil. Hebrews 5:14
And you can't have discernment if all you have is blog-theology. Yeah, I just made up that word. It means you are internalizing a steady diet of blog posts and nothing else.
The Lord has given us the precious job of training up little hearts for His glory. What a privilege and honor. How dare we complain?